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My husband’s Monkey

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Working from home has its perk even though I am not a big fan of this flexibility. Only for the month of Ramadhan, I take it as an acception. In fact, in all these years, in recruitment especially, this is my first time working from home (2 days in a week, 3 days half day in office). Due to family commitments and lack of support, I am left with no choice. Family comes first. I will do anything for my family. But really a big thanks and appreciation for my boss – Andy Evans. I have never come across such an understanding and kind boss. Such a humble, down to earth, understanding and kind man he is. God Bless that man and his family!

Today I am heavily multi tasking. Working from home, helping my husband business in uploading and creating all marketing stuffs, talking to clients and candidates, managing my staffs from home, managing my desk, cleaning the house, oh yes cooking later, taking care of family affairs and today just for today I was given a task by my beloved husband to take over his “monkey” which he created.

I wasn’t really sure to laugh or to scold him. I appreciate his intention of helping me but there are many other things to help me at home. But it’s ok, I still love you. Like what Semantha (one of my consultant always loves to say) – Cute. My husband is cute. Not only he is cute cute like really cute. But cute in a sarcastic way – like WTH Cute.

Here are some photos of the additional “monkey” he added on to my To-Do List.

pillows with goose feathers

Yes – those are PILLOWS…. Continue to Scroll…

2k sofa

2k sofa just to match the scheme

kitchen trolley

Uhuh, kitchen trolley – I am not going to the market.

designing

But I am downstairs now…

maintaining GBG Website

while working from home. just managed to clear my inbox.

working by the pool side, sweating off during the fasting month! at 1.30pm!

yes thats what its all about

yeah, to do this!

goose feather pillow basking under the sun

basking – suntanning

So that’s the story. Teni actually wanted to prep the house for Eid festival. So he “cutely” (no such word i know) wash all the pillows in the WASHING MACHINE (not sure whether it was delicate spin mode because he ruined some of my clothes by always choosing Heavy Duty Mode! and I am still a nice wife) and he didn’t realised that the pillow cushions has holes and the whole house was full of feathers flying around (because he lifted the washer lid – can you imagine the chaos he created while I was at work in office last 2 days) and he was in panic mode. He picked up all the feathers one by one hahaha (he was convinced that by vacuuming or sweeping will caused dirts in between the feathers) and he was so scared that I will scold him, he quickly sew the pillows and put all the feathers back in it. However he failed and was frustrated, he drove to his parents place to sew the wet pillow with the sewing machine and fetched me from office (half day remember?) and he didn’t tell me the story until I got home.

I was praising him that he helped me with the chores. He confessed and told me the story and my face go blank. To make it worse, the past 2 days was not sunny at all and the smell from the pillows/ feathers turned bad as if we are in chicken poultry farm. The pillows smell were so disgusting and he washed it again last night. I told him to stop but he refused as he was affected with the smell for the fact that he did a “bad cute job” (now you get my cute means?). My husband has been so obsessed with the pillows for the past 48 hours. SO today, in order not to make him feel even worse, I went downstairs at the swimming pool where the sun is and put on my thickest skin ever and chill by the side, multi tasking – blogging, emailing, calling, designing, just hanged up phone with Semantha about PRC (potential recruitment consultant) and all eyes on me from the neighbours, security guards and cleaners.

So embarrassing you know…..

 
 
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Malaysia Airlines

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Seriously? Route around Ukraine when they are going through war? Really? Complacent or their pilots is a bunch of slackers? I meant there are so many other routes to take, why that route? If their main airline has no brain what about their budget airline – FireFly?

And after the missing MH370, why does everyone still supporting Malaysia Airlines? OMG… Beyond words to describe their stupidity despite my sympathy.

But anyway, let’s all just stop taking Malaysia Airlines/ Firefly! Khalas!

I really hope other airlines will do a tight screening process of recruitment for all pilots interviewing especially from Malaysia Airlines.

My prayers for the loss lives’ family…

 
 
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#prayforgaza

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#prayforgaza – deeply saddened not for the fact that Palestine getting smaller but for this world is a bad place – full of greed, agenda, hypocrisy, animosity, human/ animal cruelty, deep-seated hatred, corruptions, evil, jealousy… I can’t stop thinking of all the disturbing photos of women and children/babies who were murdered in Palestine. I wonder why Muslims Neighbouring countries like Saudi Arabia, Iran, etc are not doing anything to help….

http://www.islam.org.hk/HY/signsofthelastday/hadiths_of_the_prophets.html

http://islam.about.com/od/islamsays/a/animalwelfare.htm

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Ramzaan Kareem

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The Causes and Motives of Hasad

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Answered Teni’s call today and he was sharing about what just happened. He was quite sad the enmity is still strong and in fact growing. I told him “Tawakal to Allah”.

Coincidentally, I read about an article today and thought should share with all of you and especially to some of you who has dirty games – you can advertise on the whole of the magazine, the bill boards, the skyscraper tower or have an helicopter do the advertising for you, you can do whatever you want, we do not care and you are free to do what you want.

As a humble human being, we have nothing to worry or be afraid of and we are not feeling threatened by your hasad wanted to bring us down. We believe that Allah is the provider and if Allah grant you rezeki, we are happy for you.

Likewise we hope the same from you for us. May Allah bless us with his constant love. And May Allah give you peace and love in your heart.

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Envy (Hasad)

Or do they envy [other] people because of what Allah has given them of His bounty?(Qur’an, chapter 4, verse 54)

Abu `Abd Allah (al?Imam al?Sadiq) (a) said that the Apostle of God (s) said that God Almighty addressed Musa ibn `Imran (a) as follows:

“O son of `Imran, never be envious of people concerning the favours I have conferred on them by My grace; do not glower at them, and do not succumb to your (envious) self. Indeed, the envious man is indignant at the bestowal of My favour, and contests My apportioning of gifts among My creatures. Whoever is such, he neither belongs to Me nor do I belong to him.” [Al-Kulayni, Usul al?Kafi,vol. 2, p. 307, Bab al-Hasad, hadith no. 6]

Hasad or malicious envy is a psychological state in which a person wishes for the deprivation of a blessing, talent, or merit possessed by another person (the mahsud). Islamic ethical teachings shed light on the causes and motives of hasad and its harmful spiritual, moral and social effects, and offer practical solutions for combating this spiritual disease.

The Causes and Motives of Hasad

Qualities in others such as certain intellectual, spiritual, and moral merits, or good and pious deeds, or outward factors such as honour, prestige and wealth can cause hasad. Also, immoral or negative traits that are imagined to be merits can be a cause of hasad. Almost all of the causes of hasad are the products of a feeling of inferiority and dejectedness. When a person perceives others to be more perfect than himself, a feeling of inferiority seizes him, which, with the help of external factors and inner propensities, generates the feeling of envy in his heart.

The scholar al?`Allamah al?Majlisi has mentioned seven causes and motives of hasad. We have listed these causes and in some cases provided examples of hasad corresponding to the cause:

Enmity: Hasad can be the result of enmity. For example, enmity against another family, tribe or group can cause one to envy successes they achieve.

The sense of one’s supremacy: The hasid (one who envies) anticipates the pride of the mahsud on account of a merit mahsud enjoys. Not having the patience to put up with this pride, the hasid feels a sense of superiority and earnestly desires the loss of this merit.

Kibr(pride) and Wonder: The hasid high?handedly treats the person who is conferred some merit, favour, or talent, and may wonder to see a great blessing enjoyed by the object of his envy. For example, a wealthy individual outwardly looks with disdain upon the respect enjoyed by a poor person believing that he deserves to be the recipient of such admiration.

Fear and Love of authority: Also, the envious man is fearful of some hindrance on the part of the person enjoying an advantage or talent or merit that may frustrate his cherished objectives. Such fear manifests itself when one’s acquiring or preserving authority over others requires that nobody should share his advantages or merits. For example, one who wishes to be re-elected as the leader of an organization may desire that no other member step forward and exhibit leadership skills such as eloquence of speech and efficiency of organization and mobilization.

Viciousness of nature: A human being of vicious nature does not like to see others enjoying any kind of good whatsoever. Such a person always greets news of another is good fortune for example, in education or business, with sarcasm, pessimism, and ridicule or with other unethical tactics or conduct.

The Evil effects of Hasad

Envy is one of the deadliest diseases of the heart and it produces additional vices such as hypocrisy, backbiting, slandering, abuse, taunting, and torturing, all of which are grave sins. This hideous condition makes the human heart so narrow and gloomy that its effects pervade the realm of one’s inner and outer being. The fears and grief of the hasid revolve around the person(s) of whom he is envious.

The hasad he harbours in his heart blinds him to the virtues of the envied, and he becomes unhappy over the blessings of God conferred upon the mahsud. The spiritual light and the divine spark of faith which makes the human heart greater than anything else in the world cannot go along with the darkness and narrowness caused in it by hasad. The heart becomes grieved and depressed, the chest narrow and suffocated, and the face grim and frowning.

The more this state gains in strength, the more it diminishes the brightness of faith, while this faith is the source of his salvation in the Hereafter and the life and vigour of his heart. Eventually this disease reduces the hasid into a helpless wretch.

The Prophet Muhammad (s) said: Beware! Do not bear enmity with the blessings of Allah. When asked about the people who bear enmity with the blessings of Allah, he(s) replied: Those who are envious. Al-Mu`tazali, Sharh Nahj al-Balagha, vol.1, p. 315)

- Imam Ali (a) said: Envy is a great trap of Satan. (Al-Amadi, Gharar al-Hakam wa darar al-Kalam, hadith no. 1133)

- Imam Ali (a) said: A hasid is a sick person though he (may) physically appear to be healthy. (Gharar, hadith no. 1963)

- Muhammad ibn Muslim reports that al-Imam al?Baqir (a) said: A man may be forgiven for something done in a fit of anger, but hasad devours faith as fire consumes wood. (Al-Kulayni, Usul al?Kafi, vol. 2, p. 306, Bab al-Hasad, hadith no. 1)

- Imam Ja`far al-Sadiq (a) is reported to have said: Satan says to his soldiers: Instil hasad and disobedience of Allah among them (bani Adam) as these are equal to shirk (polytheism) in the eyes of Allah. Al-Kulayni, Usul al-Kafi, vol. 2, p. 327, Bab al-Baghy, hadith no. 2)

- Imam Ja`far al-Sadiq (a) said that Luqman (a) said to his son: There are three signs of a Hasid: (1) He is a backbiter at the back (2) He is a flatterer in front and (3) He is happy when a misfortune befalls (the envied). (Al-Saduq, Al-Khisal, p. 121, hadith no. 113)

The Cure for this Disease

If you suffer from this deadly disease, seriously contemplate the enormity of its devastating effects on your faith. Consider taking following steps to purge it from your heart:

- Know that your envy doesn’t harm your mahsud, nor does it make him lose any of his favours and merits. You shall ever suffer in grief, pain, and anguish while the mahsud is in a state of bliss and joy. In the Hereafter as well your envy will benefit your mahsud, especially if it results in backbiting or slandering as your good deeds will be assigned to the mahsud.

- Force yourself to be affectionate with the mahsud. The aim of your kindness should be to cure yourself of envy. Your inner self will ask you to ill-treat or hurt him, but you must act against these inclinations and be friendly to him. You must respect him and gradually convince your heart to respect him.

- Try to see his virtues yourself and think that these are favours of Allah on him. Force yourself to speak in his praise and make his good qualities known to others. Though your behaviour will be unnatural in the beginning, since your aim is self?rectification, it will gradually become less artificial. Insha’Allah, day by day this will become a reality and your heart will follow your tongue to appreciate his virtues and good qualities.

- You should convince yourself and make it understand that your mahsud is a creature of God; perhaps it is God’s grace that He has selected him for the advantages and blessings he enjoys that you do not (currently) possess.

- If, God forbid, the object of your envy is a scholar endowed with knowledge or piety, you must understand that he is from the chosen ones of God, blessed by great merit. Try to generate love and humbleness towards him.

- At any stage during your treatment, don’t think that this moral vice is not curable; this erroneous notion is inspired by Satan and the lower self (al-nafs al-ammara), who want to frustrate your efforts of curing yourself. Have hope in God Almighty Who has promised that He will guide those who struggle and help them through His invisible grace and increase their capacities. (Imam Al-Khomeini, Forty Hadith, chapter 5 hasad)

Conclusion

Hasad is a disease of the soul that has grave psychological, moral, and social consequences. Fortunately, with faith and, sincere and persistent efforts, it is curable. A faithful person is optimistic, has a hopeful attitude towards God, and is satisfied with the way He has divided His bounties among His creatures.

Imam Ali (a) said: The person who gives up hasad is loved by people. (Al-Majlisi, Bihar al-Anwar, vol. 77, p. 237, hadith no. 1)

 
 
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